Yeah, some love shallow. It takes no growth, reflection, or change. They thrive in superficial connections, where everything stays surface level and comfortably numb. No one has to look too closely or feel too much.
But going into the depths requires facing your own void, fully immersing yourself in self-development, and owning the parts of you most people spend a lifetime avoiding. That kind of introspection overwhelms narcissists because it requires radical honesty with themselves. Suddenly they’re staring at the emptiness they’ve been running from, and it’s far easier to pull back to the shore than to dive in and do the work.
True connection is when both people are committed to the depths, not the shallow.